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I'm Steffy, and I live in my favorite place on earth, Long Beach NY with my two loves & our dachshund. In this space we share our adventures around NY, cozy days at home and tons of outfits! Grab a cup of coffee and lets get to know each other!


Friday, April 28, 2017

Spring Blooms With Clarks

Thanks to and Clarks for sponsoring this post! 

The blooms are OUT in full force, and I am not wasting a second getting out my Spring clothes (and treating myself to some new ones) Last year at this time, I was too pregnant for any of my clothes to fit, so it feels sooooooo good to be in dresses & skirts & loving getting dressed again! It's like you skip tons of seasons of clothes when you're preggo (well, 10 months worth to be exact, but more like 6 with belly in place) and oh how i LOVE clothes. and shoes. that I can buckle myself.

I am so excited to partner with Clarks to style these adorable Corsio Amelia sandals from! I am always investing in new boots and skimping on cute Spring shoes, so I'm committed to stepping up my sandal game this season! These are so comfortable, and the ankle strap is really flattering. I ordered them, as usual, from and they showed up super quickly and shipped for free!

Okay, heading out to soak in more of these epic blooms!

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Wednesday, April 26, 2017

10 Things I Miss About Life Before Being a Mom

There's some things women generally don't talk about after becoming a mom - the gory details of their deliveries (it's all rainbows and babies, right?), the changes in their sexuality and their marriage, but most of all they don't really ever share the negatives and the setbacks in becoming a mom. Don't get me wrong, I love Hudson with my whole heart, and would much rather be with him than doing anything else, pretty much ever, but there are FOR SURE things that I miss about my life before! It's natural, I refuse to feel guilty about it, and I am going to share it with you so we can talk about it! :)

1 - The ability to do whatever I want, whenever I want. If I wanted to stay for drinks with coworkers after work, I could. Two hour bath on a Saturday at noon? Sure! Sleep in until 10PM... always was a good idea. None of these things happen anymore, not without a ton of planning beforehand!

2 - Movies!! Matt and I were huge movie junkies, but now it isn't possible to go see them, unless we get a sitter which we have yet to do. Netflix, it is!

3 - A lack of constant fear - Before Hudson, I of course wished for the health of my husband and family and friends, but I never feared that I would be responsible for anything happening to any of them. Even when Hudson is sound asleep at night, I still fear for him, or that something will happen under my roof.

4 - Planning outfits, and feeling generally more put together - I used to lose hours sometimes trying things on, trying new hairstyles and just having fun being a girl! But now, it's messy top knot and overalls on most days. My style is sort of boring!

5 - Feeling whole while out in the world - Maybe this one is a bit obscure, but when I am out and about without Hudson, I don't feel complete. It feels like people are only getting part of my story. I just want them all to know that I am a new mom, just because. I don't really know why.

6 - Having my social life determine my schedule  - Once you have a baby, your day revolves around them. Even if you aren't super strict about naps, they do need to happen, as do feeds, and it's hard to stay out late even for dinner. We always have an exist strategy. Most of my friends have kids, because my friends without kids are doing things I can no longer take part in.

7 - The ability to pick up and go - If I was offered a weekend trip somewhere, or a work trip to Spain, I used to JUMP at this idea. Now I just know it's going to be a whole lot of planning and work to make it happen, which is worthwhile and fine, but it just isn't the same.

8 - Focusing on my relationship - Once you have a baby, most conversations are about the baby, or work. It's hard to force ourselves not to be those people. 

9 - Feeling cute in a young + cute kind of way, not a mom kind of way - I used to get dressed and be like "YAY I love what I have on I feel so good!" but now it's usually "I look cute for a mom!" It's like this new title, that is added on to and wrapped in to my being. I don't know if other peoples perception changes of you when you become a mom, but your perception of yourself definitely does.

10 - SLEEEEP! Hudson is sleeping through the night, but I'm still not! Since mid-pregnancy when I would wake up to pee 10948 times, I never slept the same. I don't know if it's anxiety, or just that my to-do list never ends, but my mind races all night long.

Anyway, I didn't mean for this to be a negative post, but I want to be real with you guys! Being a mom is so amazing, but it's also a huge sacrifice! I'd love to hear some things you miss in the comments! 

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Monday, April 24, 2017

Not Without My Coffee.

This tee is the damn truth... and not without my wine either! ;) I seriously have not taken it off since it showed up in an adorable pink package from bando. Here's some snaps from a morning boardwalk stroll with my two dudes.

Also, this cardigan is on super sale! I linked this entire outfit below.

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Friday, April 21, 2017

Upstate NY Adventures in Thrifting // Outfit

Thanks to and Rockport for sponsoring this post! 

It's probably not surprising to you guys that I spend my time off hunting for treasures in upstate NY (Mystery Spot antiques is worth your time!) What may come as a shock to you, though, is that I packed so light that I only brought one pair of shoes for the adventure - these super cute and comfortable Rockport sandals from that I was so excited to style. I am getting really good at being a pick-up-and-go, re-wear the same pants for days kind of person. If you've followed me through the years, I'm sure you can understand why I'm so proud of this accomplishment!

We spent this day in Phoenicia, walking around the town and eating at our favorite diner in all of NY. It's fun to explore all of the small towns of upstate NY, and it's even more fun to be comfortable while doing so. I can't say enough good things about these Rockport's, but the best part is that I never had to break them in. They were comfortable from the start! Also, I was able to order them in a pinch before the weekend, because as always has fast and free shipping! Tons more upstate adventures to come...

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Wednesday, April 19, 2017

8 Swimsuits In My Shopping Cart

1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8

As the temps rise above 60 degrees, I can't help but daydream about the beach days that are right around the corner! Last summer I was in all maternity swimsuits, so I can't wait to wear some cute new suits to the beach! Here's a few of my favorites from around the web... 

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Monday, April 17, 2017

The Best Shoes // An Outfit!

I know that I'm constantly tooting Sezane's horn, but GUYS. These shoes are my dream shoes. They're the perfect heel height, and my favorite mustard yellow color. I am so so smitten!

I found this amazing suede pinafore dress in a vintage shop near Joshua Tree, and I've never seen anything like it before! It's one of my favorite items in my closet, and makes me feel like a 70's dream! I linked the shoes & the bag below!

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Thursday, April 13, 2017

VIDEO: A Joshua Tree & Palm Springs Video Diary!

We've been working on getting this video diary of our roadtrip up as quickly as we could, and here it is! It's so fun to share a bit of our little life with you! Enjoy! :)

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Wednesday, April 12, 2017

An Outfit In Brooklyn

Lately I've been gravitating toward wearing my hair up, because A. it's way quicker and B. it's falling out, so this is a fun way to cover that up. Also, Hudson always pulls on it now!

Most days I throw on denim and a tee, so it felt good to plan out this look and feel sort of like my "old self." Some of these items are older, but I linked similar ones below!

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Monday, April 10, 2017

Hudson's 5 Month Update + Unpublished Photos!

I was dreading this month (as you read in this post) but it inevitably came, and now I am here learning how to be a new kind of mom - a working mom. I am still trying to figure out how to juggle it all, mostly by sneaking in work when Hudson is sleeping at night so I can not stress in the mornings or evenings when he is awake and ready to play. I have the privilege of working from home some days, but I still feel like I don't get enough time in with him. Let's see how my second week feels...

I've been trying to find more things to do with Hudson this month, because I feel like he's more mentally developed and needs to be entertained and challenged constantly. I am going to try to find swim lessons for babies & look into mommy and me type classes! I'd love to hear suggestions for other things to get us into!

BABY UPDATE: This month, I think Hudson developmentally changed the most. He is now a PERSON, not just a little cute thing that we stare at. He does things, he has a blossoming personality and he's fun to hangout with! We went away to California on our roadtrip for 1 week, and something in that week made him way way smarter! When we came home, he used all of his toys differently. He just knew how to bounce in his Jumperoo, and he was more okay with playing alone and entertaining himself in small stretches. 

He started making noise while sticking his tongue out which is so cute. He also started to roll over from back to tummy, which was not fun for his sleep at all. He 100% had a sleep regression because of this, and we had to re-sleep train him. He still goes to bed at 7:30PM and always sleeps 11 hours through the night now to 7AM. 

This month he's also way more bonded with his daddy. He of course wants me when he's crying or in a mood, but I'm like this lame-o who is always there, but when daddy walks in the room he lights up and wiggles all around. It's so cute. Last thing - this month he noticed Claude! He stares at her all day as she throws her toys around and jumps around on the couch. He also grabs at her and tries to pet her!

MAMA UPDATE: I mostly feel like a way more stressed & overwhelmed version of myself. It's like, if one area of my life is thriving, the other is falling behind. On weeks where I feel like a good mama to Hudson, I notice that I haven't blogged at all, or that I've barely hungout with Matt. Now with my job back in the mixture, I barely have time to breathe. A glass of wine at dinner some nights is my sanity. :)

Also, I thought my hair would never fall out like everybody said, but now it is EVERYWHERE. I can't even brush it! Any recommendations??

These are the things we've been using most:

1. Jumperoo: Hudson has loved this toy all month! When I first got it he wasn't quite sure what to do with it, but throughout the month he has been learning how to use his legs, to bounce and the toys keep him so preoccupied!

2. Wireless Camera: After much consideration, we decided to install a Wifi camera. This allows me to workout down the hall where our other monitor's signal wasn't working, and it also allows Matt to see Hudson when he travels for work. This one was so easy to setup, and we can view it on our phone! It even lets you move the camera through your phone, it's insane!

3. Shake and Sing Elephant: For $8, this toy does so much! He loves watching the light shine, and the ears twisting!

4. Spin Rattle: We wanted to find a rattle that was a little bit more in depth then the one we have and love (linked at 3 months) - this one is his new favorite!

5. Angelcare Bath Support: When we moved Hudson from the sink to the tub, this has made my life so much easier! I place him in it, and fill the water up only a tiny bit. He loves kicking around, and the material is gripping, so he doesn't slide!

6. Water Filled Teether: My poor baby has been teething so badly, so on nights when he seems bothered we hold this in his mouth after letting it sit in the refrigerator. It gives him some relief. 

7. Bumbo Seat: This Bumbo has helped him build back support! I try to place him in it during storytime in the morning, and he enjoys it!

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Friday, April 7, 2017

A Spring Day Outfit

Some of you mentioned that you do miss "outfit posts" so I am going to do my best to post at least one per week! It's actually finding the items to link below that is the most time consuming, because surprisingly I DO get dressed every single day. haha!

Anyway, I wore this on a walk to the park with Hudson to put him in the swing for the first time. It was a gorgeous 55 degree Spring day, and it made me so excited for all of the beautiful weather that's ahead of us! Everything is so much more fun with Hudson. It's crazy. Anyway, I am so excited to pull out my leather jacket in this weather! I have so many lighter coats that I've been waiting to wear! I linked the items to shop below!

Blouse is Primark, but you can't shop online. Here's the link anyway, and I've linked similar ones below!

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